What Buffy Taught Me
My bedroom at university is pretty well decorated with a Jurassic World poster on the wall, fairy lights, and pictures of my friends and I surrounding my desk. However, my favourite decoration in my room is the one my Dad helped me make before I moved away: a gold lettered sign on my wall, right next to my bed, that says “What Would Buffy Do?”
This is the mantra I live by. I grew up watching Buffy the Vampire Slayer (BTVS)- it began on television when I was a few months old and my parents eventually acquired the box sets for me to start watching when I was about seven or eight years old. I was never allowed to watch past season 3 due to ‘adult themes’ (read: Buffy and Riley sex scenes) until I was about twelve or thirteen. I’ve now watched the series a few hundred times and, at the ripe old age of nineteen, I can safely say that BTVS has taught me some valuable life lessons.
#1: It’s okay not to be okay
Buffy has to be one of the strongest characters I have ever seen on television, and yet sometimes she can’t be strong. We see Buffy break down several times on the show, whether it be because she has to kill Angel or because her mother dies. Each of these times humanize Buffy and remind me that it is okay to not be okay, and sometimes you will get sad and overwhelmed, but that’s fine because you don’t have to be strong all the time. Not to mention Buffy crying always ends up with me crying too!
#2: Don’t be a sheep
One of my favourite characters in the BTVS series has got to be Cordelia. She’s sassy, hilarious, and the ‘bully turned friend’. One of the best things Cordelia has taught me is to not be a sheep. Cordy is unafraid to be herself, and she is a very loud and proud, outgoing personality. However, the turning point for her was at the end of the season 2 episode, Bewitched, Bothered and Bewildered, when she stands up to Harmony and her band of ‘sheep’. Cordelia tells Harmony that she is a sheep, and Cordy will wear what she wants to wear and date who she wants to date, even if that guy is Xander.
#3: Everything is better with a little help from friends
Buffy often suffers from what I like to call the ‘hero complex’, i.e. she feels as if she has to do everything alone and by herself so that she doesn’t endanger any of her friends or family. However, the majority of the time she has the most success when she allows her friends to help her in any way they can. This is an advantage of them knowing that she is the Slayer. They often help research what Buffy is up against, find clues, concoct and carry out plans, and be there when it is all done and dusted. My two favourite examples of when they all succeeded together was when they were fighting the Order of Taraka assassins in season 2, each of them tackling one that they had researched. Also, I absolutely loved the season 3 finale, Graduation Day part 2, when they finally all take on the Mayor’s ascension. It is such a kick ass episode, mostly because everyone is fighting and working together to take the big snake down.
Hopefully you guys have watched BTVS, or plan to soon, as it has always been, and will always continue to be, my favourite TV show in the world. It’s funny, witty, dark, stressful, action packed, and it teaches a lot of important lessons through the characters and their ordeals.
I look forward to my 101st re watch!